What It Means to Be "Bi-Curious"
The phrase "bi-curious" refers to people who are interested in having a same-gender sexual experience without necessarily labeling their sexual orientation as bisexual.
Being bisexual or bi-curious is a perfectly okay thing to be. There are women who thought they were lesbian who suddenly found themselves confused and attracted to a man. Additionally, there are women who thought they were straight, and then found themselves confused and attracted to another woman down the road.
Women who get tangled up in these situations often don't know how to label themselves, and saying that they're bi-curious is a way to tie it all together.
What It Means to Be "Bi-Curious"
People with an interest in bisexuality, or suspect that they may be bisexual themselves, are often considered bi-curious. Usually, this is a stage where someone is unsure of their sexuality and does not classify themselves as bisexual—but calls themselves bi-curious as a way to explore their curiosity around their possible bisexuality, change in sexual orientation, and otherwise attraction to the same gender.
Someone can be bi-curious unwillingly or willingly. Perhaps there is an intense or mild attraction to the same sex that is wanted or unwanted. The attraction could be for the purpose of sexual pleasure or pure experimentation and self-discovery. One might label themselves bi-curious if they wonder about what it's like to have sex (or other intimate experiences) with another woman, even if they are married, have a partner, or consider themselves straight or gay.
Bi-curiosity can come about at any age and stage of life. It's more common than one might think to experience arousal by the same sex, and the curiosity may not translate to real experience but could lend itself to thoughts, visions, and/or daydreams about exploring someone of the same sex intimately.
Terms that are similar to bi-curiosity includeheteroflexibleandhomoflexible, but many people associate these specifically with a desire to experiment with someone sexually.
Bi-Curiosity in Pop Culture
The pop singer Katy Perry is famous for one of her earlier songs, "I Kissed a Girl," which is now known as something of a bi-curious anthem. In it, she sings, "I kissed a girl just to try it. I hope my boyfriend don't mind it. I kissed a girl and I liked it." This song caused a bit of a stir, both from those who applauded the singers' candid discussion of this subject, as well as from those who felt Perry trivialized same-sex experiences and turned them into something simply designed to titillate.
Not everyone loves the term bi-curious, and some teens refer to themselves as "questioning" to describe what others might call bi-curious. This is normal, as many teens experience periods where they question their sexual orientation or have a curiosity about a same-sex sexual experience. A lot of these teens don't identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual—and that's perfectly fine. Figuring out one's sexual orientation can be tricky, and sometimes the person we assume ourselves to be doesn't always match the way we feel.
When one identifies as hetero, it can be unsettling to realize that you might not exclusively feel this way. However, researchers are learning that it's more common than we may realize.
Most of us are familiar with the terms gay, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual (or straight) to describe sexual orientations. But more and more, people are realizing that these terms don't actually capture everyone's experience. As a result, we now hear more about the experience of being genderqueer, pansexual or omnisexual.
In recent years, Cornell University Professor Ritch Savin-Williams and his graduate student Zhana Vragalova identified a new category which they are calling, "mostly heterosexual." Mostly-heterosexuals are just that: people who are usually attracted to, and romantically and sexually involved with, the opposite gender.
However, these people may also experience attraction to and romantic feelings for people of the same gender from time-to-time.
What It Boils Down To
Ultimately, how one defines themselves is a personal decision. However, it's understandable that knowing that others feel the same way you do (or that what you are feeling is normal) is reassuring. Whether you call yourself straight or gay, mostly-heterosexual, bisexual or bi-curious, pansexual, or gayer-than-straight, it may be less important than feeling okay about who you are overall.
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